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As the Holidays are upon us, I wanted to suggest a few very practical things to do with your daughter. Typically, both you and your daughter will have a little down time coming up. Thanksgiving is this Thursday and you will likely have a long weekend. Then, Christmas vacay is right around the corner.


Here are a few suggestions to help take advantage of the extra time you will have with your daughter. Obviously depending on your daughter’s age, you will need to make adjustments.

*Take your daughter out to breakfast or lunch over the holidays. (Do it more than once)

*Sit down and watch one of your daughters TV shows WITH her. Take an interest, ask some questions.

*Sneak into your daughter’s bathroom at night and write a note on her mirror. Tell her something you are proud of her for.

*Take your daughter to a movie over vacation.

*Ask her “If you could do anything at all during your vacation, what would it be?” Then DO IT with her!

*Look at the “written resources” section of our website ( Find the section with the “Father Daughter Scriptures” and read her a new bible verse each day. Then discuss it by saying “what do you think that means?” and “What would change if we lived like we believed it was true?”

*In the “Video Resources” section of our website, show her the “Evolution” video and discuss how most of the beauty projected in the media is NOT real.

*Tell her you are going to start a new tradition called the “Father/Daughter Get away.” Discuss where the two of you are going to go on an overnight trip sometime this coming spring or summer.

This is just a start. Take any of these or make some up on your own. The important thing is that you engage with your daughter somehow, some way. The upcoming month can afford you more of an opportunity to do so.

As Nike said…. “Just Do It”

I’d love to hear about anything you did with your daughter. Share your success with us!

Have an awesome Thanksgiving Holiday with your family!

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Alan Smyth


Now that the Holiday season is officially ON, don’t forget to peruse the My Father Daughter Store for some fun items for the Dad’s & Daughters in your life! Hit the banner below to take you to our store!


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On a previous blog post entitled “10 Rules for Dating my Daughter” practically went viral. Through the magic of Social Media, there were literally people from around the world who piped in with comments. It was by far the most viewed and “shared” blog post so far in the life of this project. In fact several people even asked about a shirt with those 10 rules printed on it. So in an effort to give the Dads what they want, we have the now  famous “Rules for Dating my Daughter” T-shirt. We have set up an online store with lots of fun products. Check it out HERE.

In case you missed the “10 Rules for Dating my Daughter” post. Click HERE

It was really fun to see Dads everywhere unite around this funny little take on daughters beginning to date. I obviously struck a nerve with this topic. It is no surprise to me that Dads of daughters united around this frightening topic. As a follow up blog, I wanted to pass along another handy tool that you may want to use with your daughter’s suitor.

Application for Dating my Daughter

  1. Name_______________ DOB _________________
  2. Height _____ Weight ____ I.Q. _____ (If below 140, need not apply)
  3. Athletic Accomplishments ______________________________________
  4. Church you attend ____________________________________________
  5. In 50 words or less, explain what “DON’T TOUCH MY DAUGHTER” means.
  6. In 50 words or less, explain what “LATE” means.
  7. Complete the following:

The last place I would want to be shot is _________________

If I were to be beaten, the last bone I would want broken is ______________

The one thing I hope this application doesn’t ask is ____________________

8. What do you want to be IF you grow up?

9. Have you ever been fingerprinted?

10. Give location of any identifying birth marks or tattoos.

11. List all hard assets, liquid cash and financial liabilities.

12. (Over/Under) 25 times having seen Braveheart (If less than 5 times, need not apply!)

I hearby swear that all of the above information is true and correct to the best of my knowledge under penalty of death and / or dismemberment.

Signed _______________________________________

Thank you for your interest. Please allow 4-6 years for processing. You will be contacted in writing if you are approved. Please do not call, write or e-mail. Any contact during processing could cause a delay.



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Ok, but seriously…. Here is a brief thought: Most of what your daughter will use to screen a potential boyfriend will be her experience of watching you with your wife. How you treat women will be how she will expect to be treated. You shouldn’t actually need a list of rules or an application if you are doing your part by showing her what a great guy looks like. She will look for someone like you!

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Alan Smyth


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Don’t Screw it up!

Alan Smyth —  November 9, 2015 — 2 Comments
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This video has been flying around facebook lately. In case you haven’t seen it yet, take a quick look now.

I don’t know this Dad, but I love this guy!  I love any Dad who speaks honestly and directly to his daughter’s boyfriends…. Husbands. Before he communicated his final word in concise, succinct, unmistakable clarity, he acknowledged two key things.

1.      He acknowledged that he and God were partners in how his daughter turned out. Are you consulting God’s wisdom, heart and vision for your daughter? If you are relying only on your own ability and input, your daughter will be cheated out of God’s best for her life.

2.      He spoke of the great journey it has been in raising her. You will have many ups and downs in raising your kids. Developing your child into a fully functioning, flourishing adult is a marathon, not a sprint. Relax about the day to day struggles and focus on the big picture finish line.

Then came the final statement in this video which resonates with every dad in the world that has ever lived throughout all time. All of us have thought of the day when we will be giving our daughters away at the altar. Many of us have teared up during movies like “Father of the Bride” as we anticipated that moment when some other dude becomes the number 1 man in our daughter’s life. While we all hope and even pray for a great young man to come into our daughter’s life, we simultaneously dread it as well.


The Dad in this video said to his would be son in law what we all think and what we all want to say. “Don’t Screw it Up!” As if to say, “Don’t be stupid, don’t be selfish, don’t look elsewhere, be smart with money, take care of my little girl, etc etc”

Guys who are reading this blog. You have one shot at this life and one shot at raising a great daughter. It’s really not all that hard to do the right thing most of the time. You and God are partnering on an incredible project known as your daughter.

So, in the words of the Dad in this video….


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Alan Smyth

PS: The picture of the Dad and bride above is Gary Parsons walking his spectucular daughter Katie down the isle. This picture as well as Gary’s input on how to be a great Dad is featured in the  book “Prized Possession.”

PSS: For lots of practical tools on how to NOT “screw it up”, search the archives of this blog. Read the past posts. There is already plenty of great input on this blog.

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Last Monday, I shared part 1 of an amazing experience that my friend Jamie Hanson had in Africa. In case you missed last Monday’s blog, please CLICK HERE to catch yourself up!

As promised, today is part 2 and the conclusion of the incredible promise he made to his daughter. Jamie took his daughter to Africa on a work trip and eventually gave his daughter a promise ring and made a dramatic promise to go along with it while looking at a beautiful African sunset. Read on and learn from a great Dad.

From Jamie: While I loved the idea of a purity ring the more I thought about the idea
the more the burden of fathering her through these next few years (13-18) began to grow on me.   I am convinced the most important earthly relationship she will have and that will shape every part of her is with me.  So instead of making the ring about a purity decision for her (although I did tell her I would like her to make this commitment) I made the ring a promise ring. Promises that I am making to her about the kind of father I intend and promise to be to her.



You are my precious daughter and a gift from God, uniquely and wonderfully made, perfect in every way.  I am honored to be your Dad!

You are incredibly beautiful, smart, funny, soft-hearted, and gifted in so many ways.

I promise to always pray for you, protect you, to be present, in the good and bad, and love you for who you are.

As your father I promise to be an example of who a Godly man is, to lead you and our family by first listening to God.  To lead with integrity, passion, adventure, service, and being generous with all God has provided.

Emma, you are my princess and I will ALWAYS carry you in my heart, for my entire life.




Dad’s, this is a GREAT example of being intentional about loving your daughter and creating a lifelong memory that will shape her forever. Why not steal this idea and make an important promise to your daughter? Why not give her an important ring with significance? Why not take her some place dramatic and pledge your love and support to her? It will be a game changer for her.



Doing these things can ONLY BE GREAT and have a GREAT outcome.



Do this! Make it your own! Change the actual promise, change the location, change the ring. As the great NIKE advertising campaign said…. “just do it”

Thanks for sharing this with us Jamie

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Today is PART 1 of a two part guest blogging post by a good friend who is also a great Dad. Read about his amazing experience and look for the amazing conclusion next week.

My name is Jamie Hanson, father of 4 kids two of which are beautiful daughters (Emma 13, and Lanni
9).  Ever since Emma turned 12 I knew I wanted to do something special for her 13th birthday, something that would signify her transition from girlhood to womanhood….and my part in that transition. I knew I had a work trip to Africa in July so my wife and I decided last fall that Emma would join me on the trip.  (I am a Development Director for International, if you were asking ‘who plans work trips to Africa?’).  We left a day after she turned 13 in late June.



We started our trip by doing work crew together in Ethiopia at a Young Life camp outside of Addis Ababa.  We served kids food, cleaned up afterward, helped  run games, and sat in the middle of a 400 kid Young Life club. It was awesome  and we were blown away.  We then went to Tanzania where Emma got to see
her Dad ‘work’ and she did it right alongside me.  This is where I was blown away.  I saw my little girl sit at banquet tables of adults and have an opinion, I watched her shake hands and start conversations. I saw her take a big step into womanhood…it was awesome!

We then took this same group of adults and spent three days in a Massia village six hours out into the Africa bush where we have Young Life.  Emma watched a goat get slaughtered in our honor, she sat in a mud hut and held babies with flies in their eyes and tears in hers.  Her heart was growing before my eyes.  Lastly, we did a 3 day  safari to end our trip together.  I had pre-planned this portion of the trip but was not prepared for how nervous I was.  I had bought and planned to give Emma a promise/purity ring on this trip.  It was the second to  last day of our 3 week trip and the safari camp we were at sat on top of a hill  that offered the most brilliant and beautiful sunset I have ever seen.

I   had written some promises from me to her on the kind of Dad I ‘promised to be’.  As the sun was setting I took her on a walk and we shared one of the most special  moments of my life together.  I read the promises and gave her the ring. Beat that future fiancée!!!  (setting the bar as high as I could for her
future suitor was a secret agenda item :)



While the adventures we had were incredible and we will have inside jokes and  stories that last a lifetime, the best part of the trip for us both will simply  be spending uninterrupted time together.  You may not be able to take your  daughter to Africa (if you can, do it!), but why not just take her camping, or
on a hike, or shopping.  Being with her is the memory that will last for me, not the place.

Jamie Hanson

Part two of this amazing story will be next Monday. You will see the incredible “Promise” that Jamie gave to his daughter.

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I never met Fred Evans, but I wish I had. I recently learned of his courageous actions and now you will too!

Fred got a bad Doctors report regarding a terminal melanoma. Fred had two single daughters and wanted to give them a memory of a life time.  He had the idea that he wanted to walk them down the aisle, give them a blessing and create a memory that would outlive him. He told his daughters to meet him at the church but arrive 45 minutes apart.

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After a few quiet moments with each daughter, he then walked them down the aisle in front of a few friends and family.

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Upon reaching the alter, he gave them a blessing and they shared a sacred moment. He gave them away to the son in law he hadn’t yet met. Everyone there knew that Fred would not be present at his daughter’s wedding. This was a powerful moment!

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Fred was not going to miss the momentous occasion of walking his daughters down the aisle. And we was not going to leave that void in his daughters life.

After this amazing event happened, he then surprised his wife as they renewed their vows in this makeshift wedding ceremony.

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Not long after this incredible ceremony, Fred lost his battle. However, his loved one’s were given an incredible gift they will never forget.

If you are brave and have a couple minutes. Watch the video of this ceremony. CLICK HERE to watch this video. Don’t miss this!

Ok, let me hit the slow pitch soft ball. I’m sure if Fred were here, he would say something like this:  “Live your life as if it’s going to end soon….. Because it just might.” If you were to get a similar Doctors report as Fred’s, would you have lots of regrets? Sad, shocked and upset for sure. But would there be a ton of unfinished business with your loved ones? Would your kids know for sure how much you loved them? Every now and then we are forced to reckon with our mortality. Take a little inventory. This is one of those times. Let’s pretend you just found out you have 3 months to live. What would you do? Who would you spend time with? What would you want to say to those you love?

Ok, one more slow pitch softball…. Now go do and say those things. And let’s pray that Doctor’s report never comes. Then you are a double winner! 

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