I have a good friend in Phoenix who runs a great business from a building he bought and redesigned.The
building does everything he needs it to do for his operation, but it has a bonus feature that is truly magnificent, a Man Cave.
This room is brimming with Testosterone. I am pretty sure my T levels went up ten points the first time I walked in the door. Even the air seemed more masculine in this place. A visit to a Man Cave can be a fun and pleasant diversion. But if you stay too long in a Man Cave, you run the risk of becoming a Cave Man.
In the Old Testament a prophet by the name of Elijah found his way to a Man Cave (I Kings 19). He had been working hard to serve his community, to do it right and to make a difference. But by the time he reached his Man Cave he was pretty wiped out, pretty discouraged and pretty done. God made an unscheduled appearance and asked a simple but significant question, ” What are you doing here Elijah?”
Elijah responded with a pattern and complaint that I recognize in myself. He began by explaining his good intentions, his hard work and his noble character. Then he complained about everyone else, their bad behavior and lousy attitudes. Finally he finished with a tragic and whiney comment about being ” the only one who cares”. These are Cave Man thoughts. They form in the dark, they take root in isolation, they are self-validating and turn us into dull brutes. Cave Men are ruled by their appetites and their fears. They are not fit company for our daughters.
To draw Elijah from the cave, God whispered his name. This was not a Power Encounter but a Personal Encounter. He was given a simple but clear charge, ” Go back from where you came.” Elijah was encouraged and reminded that God was up to more than he knew. God is always doing more in us and through us than we perceive. So let’s go back from where we came. Let’s get up and get on with it.
Lets lose the self-endorsing chatter in our heads about our great character and noble intentions.
Let’s quit whining about the whiners.
Let’s be Joyful Saints and not Miserable Martyrs when we show up to serve.
Our Daughters deserve good men and great dads.
So enjoy a visit to your local Man Cave. Take a good deep breath and enjoy the earthy masculine dimension of your male soul.
Then head back and Man Up, we’ve got work to do.
Peace and Grace
Dr. Don Worcester