Are you in a difficult season with your daughter? Maybe don’t know where to begin? Want to listen, be engaged, and invest, but you can’t seem to find the words or the space?
We surveyed teenage girls and my conversations with young women this very week have echoed some of the exact same sentiments. As much as they may push you away, they want you involved!
From the mouths of girls themselves……
I wish my dad knew:
“How much I love him” and
“I’m not as tough as he might think”
Underneath it all – your daughters love you and they know they can push, but they need you to stay the course and keep moving forward. They want you involved even though their actions may not always show it. And, you must want to grow, or you probably wouldn’t be reading this blog.
So, where to start?
3 Phrases to use more often:
“I love you”
As I talk to girls of all ages these 3 things always tend to come up. The power of these 3 phrases is incredible, especially from fathers! Even this week I have had multiple girls echo the need to hear each of these phrases more than they do. As I see this list I know I too need to use each of these more than I do. I need to let people know with words, not just actions that I love them. I need to say “thank you” more often for everything – people in my life should know that I appreciate them and things they do (even the little things that may seem commonplace or expected). And, I need to say “I’m sorry”. The simple words “I’m sorry” can be healing, restoring, and a salve for the wounds of the heart.
Try using these 3 phrases with your daughters this week more than normal and let us know how it goes!
If you happen to be near Valencia, Ca this Saturday, 11/17, Alan Smyth and I will lead a 90 minute seminar for dads with daughters at 10:00 am. Cost $10. Use this link to sign up. Bring a friend.