10 Rules for Dating my Daughter

Alan Smyth —  February 18, 2013 — 18 Comments

I recently ran across a great list I want to share with you. It is entitled 10 rules for dating my daughter. I both laughed and resonated with this list. I then shared it with a few friends who have daughters and they loved it too.

10 Rules for Dating my Daughter

  1. Get a job
  2. Understand I don’t like you
  3. I’m everywhere
  4. You hurt her, I hurt you
  5. Be home 30 minutes early
  6. Get a lawyer
  7. If you lie to me, I will find out
  8. She’s my princess, not your conquest
  9. I don’t mind going back to jail
  10. Whatever you do to her, I will do to you

I would think any young man would be better off knowing this helpful information. And I know my daughter would be better off as well!

If you are interested in getting the shirt that these rules was turned into, please go to www.myfatherdaughter.com and hit “shop the MFD store”

In all seriousness (not that those are not serious) I wonder what rules you have in place for your daughter? I wonder if you have any “dating rules” or possibly “dress code” rules in place. Many readers of this blog have very young daughters and you have not even thought of such things. However, many of you have older daughters and you are in the middle of this tumultuous time of life.

I would like to offer a couple of thoughts in this regard.

  1. Decide on your dating rules long before you need them.
  2. Decide on your dress code rules long before you need them.
  3. Make them known long before you need them.


In our case, when Brittany was young, we wanted to instill a modest dressing policy. We have seen so many young girls dressing as if something was for sale. Dressing as if no one in their life was speaking any wisdom into their lives. When Brittany was pre-teen, we outlawed “spaghetti strap” type of tops. When she was young, there was no physical reason to do this. We simply wanted modest clothing choices to already be established as she grew into the age when it would be necessary.

Regarding dating, the boy needed to come over to meet me days before the date. I didn’t want to be meeting the knucklehead the day of the date. I wanted to meet him, talk to him and intimidate him etc. Actually my goal was not to intimidate him. But, if it happened, that was just a bonus.

Was Brittany always happy with our policy’s? NOPE! Did I care? NOPE! My goal was not to have her happy with me. My goal was her protection. It was my job as her Dad.

 What are your dating rules?

What is your dress code?


This picture will be used on the cover of the upcoming book Prize Possession

Don’t let this sneak up on you. Get it in place now. It will pay off later.

Press On

Alan Smyth

PS: June 15 will be another Father/Daughter seminar delivered by Alan Smyth and Kristy Fox at Real Life Church. This is Father’s day weekend.

PSS: You can follow this project on twitter at @2cor618

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Alan Smyth

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I have been married to Sharon for 35 years. We have two kids, Brittany (31) and Trevor (26) I am the Executive Director for Saving Innocence. I have a passion for my family and have learned a few things along the way.

18 responses to 10 Rules for Dating my Daughter

  1. I don’t ever want a boy to honk his horn so my daughters can run out to meet him.

    Show her and myself more respect by coming to the door.

    I have 2 daughters. Tatum is 5 and Kayla is 1.

  2. i want one !! please let me know how to buy one ..thks

  3. Cool, I lovev it!

  4. Today, I went to the beach front with my kids. I found a sea shell and gave it to my 4 year old daughter and said “You can hear the ocean if you put this to your ear.” She
    placed thhe shell to her ear and screamed.
    There wass a hermit crab inside and it pinched her ear. She
    never wants to go back! LoL I know this is entirely off topic but
    I had to tell someone!

  5. Wow, you really don’t trust your daughter.

  6. Migdalia Reyes June 7, 2017 at 3:32 am

    Where can I purchased this

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