In our book Prized Possession, we compiled a number of voices to form one strong message. We hear from Dad’s who have done it well and Daughters who have been loved well from great Dad’s. They both have a great perspective to learn from. Additionally, in between each chapter we insert a few nuggets entitled “Real Talk.” In our “Real Talk” segments, we hear from a variety of young women who vulnerably share a brief thought from their perspective.
Between chapter 2 and chapter 3, we find this section of “Real Talk”
“As society and culture takes its toll on girls today, girls begin to lose a sense of their own value. It’s a painful loss and often leads to a search for painkillers. Alcohol and drugs are often used to numb the pain. Girls compromise their God-given value to meet the expectations of boys who can’t possibly understand the beautiful treasures God has created them to be. “If I only give my boyfriend what he wants,” they think, “then I’ll matter. I’ll be something, I’ll belong.” The problem is, such a pattern reduces a girl to her ability to perform and her willingness to have sex. Such a degradation of her identity will act as a huge wall against her understanding of who God has created her to be and the value He, as her Father, has placed on her life.”
Here is what I heard from the young lady who shared her “Real Talk.”
- It’s hard being a girl
- Girls are de-valued
- There is pain we seek to numb
- We compromise for the sake of a boy’s approval
- I want to matter and belong
- We are reduced to our performance
- Our understanding of who God made us to be is under attack
A pretty strong message indeed. As Dad’s, we need to not only be aware of how many of our girls think in this regard, but we need to be willing to have a strong counter cultural message against these lies. We are in a battle every day for the wholeness of our kids. Dads are needed to be present and engaged more than ever.
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Stay at it Guys!