We are in the season of Spring Breaks. When kids are little, “Spring Break” simply means a celebration of NO SCHOOL. And before we got all politically correct, it wasn’t even called “Spring Break.” It was called “Easter Vacation.” Either way, for kids, Spring Break started out pure and fun. It started out as time with family and friends.
“Spring Break” now conjures up very different meanings and images. Spring break has become big business for popular destinations such as Vegas, Florida and Mexico. It is THE thing to do for thousands upon thousands of college kids.
For a hard hitting, honest picture of what is happening out there on Spring Breaks, check out the documentary on Netflix called “Liberated: The New Sexual Revolution.” Check out the trailer HERE. Warning, it may not be easy to watch. But if you have a High School or college aged daughter, (or son) it is required viewing for you.
Honestly, it’s baffling to me how and why parents are letting their kids go to these types of events. I guess there is a case to be made that those “kids” who are participating are actually “adults” and can do whatever they want. To that I say, GREAT, then pay for your own college… cell phone….food… car… etc etc etc. and be a real adult!
I certainly don’t mean to lump every kid on these trips into the lowest common denominator. But even good kids or naïve kids showing up in an environment with massive alcohol consumption, open sexual activity & exploitation, and predators of all kinds will lead to poor judgment, regret, pain or worse.
Ok, so what is my message to Dad’s out there? I’m guessing most you reading this agree with my opinion here and the overall safety of “Spring Breaks.” If not, I am totally comfortable going against the grain on this one.
My message is this:
The accepted stereo typical “Spring Break” activity is bad, unhealthy and downright scary. Especially for young women.
Start while your daughter is young creating a fun, positive tradition over “Spring Break.” Something to look forward to every year.
Create family alternatives which are more attractive than the world’s options and you will have a better chance as your kids grow older. (hint: relationship with YOU is the key. Start cultivating that relationship while she is young and while you are still a Super Hero in her eyes)
Or how about just saying “NO” to things you don’t approve of? Regardless of their legal age you will always be their parent and will always have a voice and a vote in their lives. Please don’t turn a blind eye to things you know are destructive. This makes you complicit in the eventual damage.
For my daughters’ Sr. year “Spring Break” trip, I took her to Hawaii (just her ane I) and had her swim with the Dolphins. (her dream) Even better…. It was her idea. How could I say “no” to my 17 year old daughter wanting to go on a vacation with me?
You can do this guys. Step up and fill the void. Re-define what is fun, acceptable, available, wholesome and healthy. Be counter cultural and start at a young age!
Pick up the book “Prized Possession” for Dad’s and also a fun T-shirt or two at the links below.