Tension and Tuning

Dr. Don Worcester —  February 27, 2015 — 2 Comments

One of my daughters is very interested in music and this year she has

been singing with her 8th grade School Choir. She has also become

interested in playing the guitar. Now, I have owned a guitar for

years. It sits on a stand in my bedroom. I think it looks very good

sitting there. Truth be told, I am probably a little better at Owning

the guitar than playing the guitar. So when my daughter picked up the

guitar recently and strummed it ever so sweetly, we both cringed at

the “sound” it produced.  On the continuum between noise and music, it

was definitely not music.


It is true that my daughter was not an experienced guitar player. In

this case however, it would  have made little difference. Even a

talented musician could not produce much music from an out- of-tune guitar and this guitar was clearly out of tune.

This guitar needed some serious adjustment. If you just want volume and noise in your life, you don’t need to worry much about being in tune.

But if want to hear music and make music, expect to be adjusted on a regular basis.



Tuning requires tension. Every string is designed to produce a particular sound.

Sounds that relate to one another create music. Sounds that do not

relate to one another create noise. For the sounds to relate on a

guitar, each string must be stretched to the appropriate

tension. No tension makes the notes Flat. Too much tension makes the sounds

sharp or snaps the strings.

The right tension produces the best music.




There is a designed tension built into parenting. Do not believe the

fantasy or the fiction that your family, your marriage or your

friendships would be perfect if you could just void out the tension.

A life with no tension is a Flat Life, first you get bored, and then you get boring.


If your words have edges, and your tone is often sharp and cutting. You may In fact be wound too tight.

Do yourself a favor and avoid blaming

others or your circumstances for your tuning problem.



Good dads and good musicians work hard at staying in tune.

They listen carefully,

they make adjustments,

they practice their craft,

they learn from others with more skill and experience,

they make mistakes

and they keep playing,

they love what they do.


Self-tuning is pretty tricky business. We may over estimate our

abilities to hear ourselves and to adjust ourselves.

Are you letting other trusted friends know your life and speak into it?

Does your wife have access and influence to your heartstrings?

Are you allowing God to adjust the tension in your life?

Let’s keep listening and trusting that we can make great music with our daughters.


Grace and Peace,

Dr. Don Worcester

Store 2 button

Dr. Don Worcester


2 responses to Tension and Tuning

  1. Good day! I could have sworn I’ve been to this blog before but
    after browsing through some of the post I realized it’s new to me.
    Anyhow, I’m definitely delighted I found it and I’ll be book-marking and checking back often!

Leave a Reply

Text formatting is available via select HTML. <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <s> <strike> <strong>