There are few things in this life that are as exciting, terrifying, humbling and joyful as being a dad with a daughter. We are on a journey far above our pay grade. Our baby girls will grow into big girls. Our big girls will grow into young ladies. Our young ladies will grow into young adults. How will they navigate all the disappointments, opportunities, dangers and delights in this process of discovering and becoming themselves? How will they navigate the uncertain and unfamiliar terrain on this journey?
All navigation relies on the availability of some fixed, visible and reliable reference point. Before there was Google Maps, G.P.S. Technology or Route 66, there was the North Star. The North Star is a Pole Star. Other stars appear to move over time and seasons. The North Star is stubborn and steady in the night sky. Travelers have historically found their way by simply looking up into the sky and finding the North Star.
So here is the wild part for us fathers. God has called us to be the visible, reliable, stubborn and steady true North Stars in our daughters’ lives. So like it or not, ready or not, believe it or not, we need to get our shine on. If you do not feel like “ Star Material,” get over it; if you do not feel ready for “Prime Time Parenting,” sorry but it is ShowTime. If you think that there are people more qualified than you, you’re probably right and it does not matter. What matters is that you and I show up to be with our daughters and for our daughters on this journey. If you don’t feel bright enough to be your daughter’s North Star, take heart – we are all a little short on Candle Power. You don’t need to be a Superstar to be a North Star.
Here’s a quote from the Universe Today website.
“Firstly, you might expect one of the most famous stars in the night sky to be one of the brightest, but it isn’t; not by a long shot. The North Star shines with a humble brightness that belies its navigational importance.”
The lyrics below were first published in 1806. Jane Taylor wrote them in a poem called “ The Star.” The melody was published in 1761 and was later arranged by Mozart. The English lyrics have five stanzas although only the first is widely known. Listen to these simple and true words.
Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are.
Up above the world so high,
Like a diamond in the sky.
When the blazing sun is gone,
When he nothing shines upon,
Then you show your little light,
Twinkle, twinkle, all the night.
Then the traveller in the dark,
Thanks you for your tiny spark,
He could not see which way to go,
If you did not twinkle so.
In the dark blue sky you keep,
And often through my curtains peep,
For you never shut your eye,
‘Till the sun is in the sky.
As your bright and tiny spark,
Lights the traveller in the dark.
Though I know not what you are,
Twinkle, twinkle, little star.
Grace and Peace,
Dr. Don Worcester