Unstoppable

Dr. Don Worcester —  November 21, 2014 — Leave a comment

Are you stoppable?

Take a deep breath and a good look in the mirror before you answer that question.

I want to feel a deep, clear and resounding cry emerging from my soul that I am Unstoppable!

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What emerges from my own soul is more timid and less impressive than I would like it to be.

The unpleasant and uncomfortable reality is that I have been stopped many times and in many places.

There have always been reasons, none of them very noble or satisfying.

 

I have been stopped because I was tired of trying and failing.

 

I have been stopped because I was afraid that I would fail.

 

I have been stopped because someone told me I could, or I told myself I could.

 

I have been stopped because it would be really hard or really costly to continue.

 

I have been stopped because I believed a lie about God, or myself, someone else.

 

I have been stopped because I lost my courage,

Because I lost my way,

Because I lost my hope.

 

I have been stopped too often and by too many things. So I am praying and asking God to help me stop, stopping.

I am asking Him for help because he was really good at not stopping. He ended up rejected and betrayed by everyone he loved, blessed and served. No one came to his defense when he was accused and arrested, no one challenged the powers that condemned and crucified him, no one stood with him or by him as he was stripped, whipped and nailed to a Cross between two condemned criminals.

No one, they were all Stopped. But none of their stopping, or my stopping, or your stopping, stopped him.

He was the one person both then and now who is truly Unstoppable! He was the one and only person qualified to pronounce a verdict over the significance of his life and his death. His verdict was and is true, that there is now no barrier that can now stop us from entering freely and boldly into His Thrown room of Grace, Mercy, Power, Love and Hope.

The Unstoppable One has removed all the “Stops”.

Jesus last words may have been his most important

“It is Finished.”

The Gospel promises us a Fresh Start for every place we have been stopped. We are dads with daughters; we need lots of Fresh Starts.

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We are not done as dads and it is not over. So lets say yes to a Fresh Start wherever we have lost momentum, connection, hope or vision.

As soon as we begin again, we are Unstoppable!

 

Peace and grace,

Dr. Don Worcester

 

 

 

I love the tv show “The Voice”- last week a contestant sang this song and it reminded me of this video. Colbie Caillat is a name almost every adolescent girl would know. She is a popular singer and well liked. She recently came out with a video that is a great video to show any woman! Watch the below video……

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“When I shot the first scene with no hair and makeup on in front of an HD camera in my face, flashed with bright lights, everyone was watching,” she told Elle. “I thought, ‘Oh my god, I bet they’re all looking at my blemishes, thinking that I should cover them up, or that I should put some volume in my hair.’ But it also felt really cool to be on camera with zero on, like literally nothing on. And then when it got to the full hair and makeup, I actually felt gross. I was just so caked on.” (Huffington Post)

In a world full of photoshop pictures, surgeries and make-up this is a great reminder and encouragement for the girls and women in our lives to be comfortable with who they are, as they are.

Pass this along,

Kristy Fox

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Recently we had a magical day at the Magic Kingdom. You may remember a previous blog post where I shared about “Rosa” and her girls and the privilege he have had to walk with her for the last 5 years. To catch yourself up, READ HERE. Despite her circumstances, she has done a great job in raising her sweet girls. The odds are clearly against her and she is battling. I am proud of her.

Recently it was her girl’s birthday. They are one year apart, yet nearly share the same day of birth. They are now 4 and 5 years old and secretly we have been waiting for them to get old enough to take them to Disneyland. A day at Disneyland is clearly far out of their reach and we couldn’t wait to make this happen. Incidentally, Rosa (mom) has never been there either, so we were excited to take them all.

After we parked our car, we boarded the tram taking us to the main gate. Rosa said, “I am so excited I want to scream!” We barely got out of the parking structure and the excitement was nearly boiling over!  We started off with the iconic and obligatory picture in front of the park with the ever watchful Mickey made of flowers.

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Next up was the standard picture in front of the castle and the magic was on!

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Before we waited in long lines for short age appropriate rides, we made the rounds seeing the available Princesses. The girls knew them all and they loved seeing the “real ones” in person.

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We took pictures and got autographs. The Princesses were sweet and engaging. The girls LOVED it.

Here are a few brief thoughts that I hope these girls will one day know. Likewise, I hope your daughter knows this and I hope that you will help in this process of understanding.

The truth is that these two young girls are the real Princesses. Not the kind that wear poofy dresses or have theme music. And not the kind that customers stand in line to see. They are not the kind of Princess that will appear as an action figure, on lunch boxes & underwear or star in a movie.

They are the real kind of Princesses. In the system of royalty, a Princess is the daughter of the King. The King is in charge and commands respect. Everyone bows to the King because of his position. In the system of the Universe, God is King and one day every knee will bend and every tongue will confess this true. He commands respect because of His position.

In the bible, there are numerous references where God & Jesus refers to us people as “Child” and “Daughter.” A daughter of the King is a Princess!

These sweet girls I took to Disneyland are Princesses in the Universe. And your daughter is as well. My hope and prayer is that our girls will understand their rightful place in the universe and live into it. They should be respected and honored as a daughter of the King. And they should not pay any attention to anyone who does not treat them with the same respect. Maybe you could remind your girl of this fact.

Be the protector and defender of Royalty!

Long live the King!

Alan

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Silent Witness

Dr. Don Worcester —  November 14, 2014 — Leave a comment

Jim was a big guy. My office seemed smaller with him inside. His hand engulfed mine as we greeted one another. He wasn’t angry but he was stressed. He and his wife sat down on my couch. The couch got smaller, the room got quieter. I waited for this couple to find their words, their starting place. They exchanged a nervous glance with one another. They were desperately wanting and needing to tell their story. They had lots to tell. They were waiting for one another at this unmarked intersection.

Jim’s wife took the first step. “ Our daughter is struggling….” was as far as she got. Her voice trailed off into sobs. Jim said nothing but his head dropped and his huge shoulders rolled forward like collapsing glaciers. Jim’s wife repackaged herself and after several minutes began to spill out the history and details of their daughters struggle. Jim sat silent for two hours while his wife reviewed and recounted three years of clinical notes and history regarding their daughter.

Jim was a little surprised when I asked for his insights and observations about his daughter and her struggles. His wife had been the one coordinating and communicating with all the teachers, counselors and doctors. He was quick to point out that he was just a “ Construction guy.” His wife was the one who read all the books on parenting. I pressed a little further on him. He became flustered and finally blurted out, “ I don’t know how to parent like my wife. I am just trying to stay out of the way and not mess things up.” Jim had made some mistakes early on trying to confront and motivate his daughter. His attempts to step in and turn things around had not worked out so well. These early missteps had turned him into a Silent Witness.

Jim had come to believe that his greatest contribution was to step back, step out and let someone else help his daughter. Over the years I have seen lots of fathers come to the same conclusion. Highlight this in your brain. Tattoo this on your favorite body part. Your daughter has one father. It is you. There is not a book, aboyfriend, an expert or even a great mom who can replace you or make your contribution. There are lots of great influences that can and should be part of your daughter’s life. You my friend will always be irreplaceable.

Jim slowly but faithfully found his courage and his voice with his daughter. Turns out she did not need him to be perfect. Healing rarely requires perfection. Truth and love spoken together, even imperfectly do a good work in all of our hearts. Keep Speaking. Keep Loving.

 

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How Are Your Margins?

kristyfox —  November 12, 2014 — Leave a comment

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I heard myself say today to a friend, “I feel like I have my margins back”!

I looked up the definition for the word “margin” on dictionary.com and it said 1) “the space around the printed or written matter on a page”  2) “an amount allowed or available beyond what is actually necessary ”

In a book I have been reading called “Teen-ology” by Jim Burns, he quotes a physician and author Richard Swenson  ” Today, most of us routinely spend 20 percent more than we have, whether in money, time, or energy,” he said.  “When life is continually maximized, however, there is no margin for priorities, relationship, depth, worship, rest, contemplation, service, or healing.” (p142)

The culture we live in doesn’t seem to value margins, but we need them.  I feel like the past few months I have been living without space in my life, schedule, and mind for ‘margins’ and it has taken a toll on me as well as those around me.  Are you in that space as well?   Are you over-committed and feel like you have no extra space to think, dream, pray, or be mentally and physically available for those around you.   Do your family a favor and create some space in your life.

We have a tendency to fill all of our extra space with tasks, projects, and extra “stuff” but I am going to try and make space for the important things that tend to happen in the margins of our lives.   Want to join me?  Let’s make a commitment to create margins that will allow for the unexpected, important, incredible things that can happen in that space.

Thanks for leaning in,

Kristy Fox

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In just two short days you can participate in a ground breaking event!

We have a HUGE announcement for the My Father Daughter audience. You may or may not know that Kristy and I have developed a live seminar for Dad’s. It is loosely based on the table of contents of our book PRIZED POSSESSION. Our seminar has been very well received each time we have done it. We recently gave this seminar in Thousand Oaks, Ca, and below is some of the feedback we heard from the Dads in the audience.

“Thank you for the encouragement. You opened my eyes to things that I need to know”

“I feel equipped to engage”

“Good best practices”

“Very informative, great job”

“It really opened my eyes at the importance of being a more prominent part of my daughter’s life”

“This was great motivation to finish well. Thank you for the blessing”

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Inevitably each time we have done this, people say “Hey, when are you doing this again!? I have three friends who need to hear this.”

The HUGE announcement is that we are conducting our first Webinar on November 12. If you have been to our seminar, it will be very similar in content, only delivered in a Webinar format. We are excited about this and hopeful we can reach more Dads through this format.

Space is very limited so if you would like to participate, just hit the link below. And of course you can forward this to anyone you think would benefit from this conversation. The target is Dads who have daughters, but really anyone is welcome to jump in.

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If you know you want to get in on this but you are unavailable on November 12, it will be recorded and able to be viewed later.

Thanks for leaning in and stepping up as a great Dad!

Alan
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